Great Sex, Profound Biblical Revelation, Turning 43

ImageThe two most Googled topics in the world is the Bible, and Sex, so obviously making that part of the title of this blog post made you click.  Welcome to one of my rants.


Since today is my birthday and I am turning 43, I’m supposed to be wiser.  I’m not sure if I am, but one thing is for sure, I have learned a lot, especially in the last 3 years.  Three years ago I wanted to quit…everything, but I didn’t thank goodness!  During that time of wanting to quit there was always one thing that stayed stuck in my mind and it was the voice of the Lord.  He said on more than one occassion, “This is not your responsibility.”


The things that I was stressed over really were things that were in my realm of responsibility.  It wasn’t until I began letting go, in order to hold on to Him, that I realized it wasn’t my responsibility, it was God’s.  Simply because I have committed my life to Him.  Therefore [awesome church word.  You get to use these when you are older than 40], my life is his life, and my stuff is His stuff.  The hardest area for most people to incorporate concept into is money.


I have learned a lot of things over the last 4 decades, but still the one thing that blows my mind is that when you bring your tithe into the House of the Lord, and honor Him with the first fruits of your income, that He in turn blesses it, and everything else in your life.  Where ever your money is, that is where your heart is.  You love what you invest in.  You are more interested in what you are invested in.  So if you are invested in the Kingdom of God you will be more interested in the kingdom of God, thus your heart will be turned to focus more on Jesus and what He is doing.  Then everything else falls in order.  


The reason people get divorced is P.M.S.

Power – who is in control

Money – not enough, where it goes, etc.

Sex – not enough, too much

What I’m getting ready to say is what I have learned, so you don’t have to agree.  It’s my life and my blog so here it goes:

When I faithfully and happily bring my tithe to God, He sets my money in order and blesses it.  Bills always get paid and there is no stress in our finances because it is His responsibility not mine.  What I have is blessed.  Since Patti and I agree that our money is really His money and every dollar in our hands is a test to see where our hearts are, that takes care of the power struggle, becasue neither her, nor I are in control of the relationship.  God is.  Therefore [only ancient sages use this word more than once in a such a short amount of time], since neither of us are struggling for control, and we are not stressed about money becasue He has put it in order then our sex life is better because there is no tension.  Yep you heard it here first – Giving tithe makes for better sex.


It’s a heart issue.  Always has been, and it always will be.  I’m glad that over the last 4 decades I have put my whole life in God’s hands.  In the good times and in the bad times, and this I know, and this I have learned – there is not a more adventurous place, than in the hands of God.


Kids Rule! Unfortunately.

Do you run your house or do your kids? Before you just jump to the typical answer think with me for a second. Do you always eat where your kids want to? Do you find yourself apologizing relentlessly for your kids behavior in public? Is it difficult for you to sit and have an adult conversation without your kids climbing all over you or, if older, constantly interrupting? Do you find yourself telling your kids to do the same thing over and over again, threatening each time with a new punishment, but never doing anything about the disobedience? Do you not believe in spanking? Yes I said it! Spanking! Totally politically incorrect and 100% Biblical.

I hear young parents and watch them struggle with their young kids. I watch as parents allow their kids to tell them what to do and when to do it, only to look in the eyes of an exhausted well-meaning adult who is at their wits end wondering why life is so difficult and why their kids seem to be growing up doing all the things that the parent hoped they would never do. If that is you then allow me to give you some recalibrating tips for your family. If you don’t like them or think they are too archaic then so be it. Live in your misery, but do me a favor, don’t call me for counseling or advice on family, and whatever you do, don’t call me asking for bail money for your wayward child.

1. When your children are young spank them. (Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15, Hebrews 12:6-7)
2. Take back control of your home. It says to raise a child in the way they should go, however what we see a lot of times is our children training us. (Proverbs 22:6)
3. Say “no”. They will not hate you. Yes they will cry. Yes they will get over it. No they will not die.
4. Refueling them on sugar and then expecting them to sit still is silly. Stop it.
5. Instead of “baby-proofing” a house train your child not to touch or play with dangerous things. All you are doing is teaching them that the world should be baby-proofed. It’s not. There are dangerous things out there, teach them to deal with it.
6. Let them hear you pray for them. When they are very young let them hear you pray for God to protect their future spouse and to even keep their future mate holy.
7. Stop having adult conversations around children. They are kids. They don’t need to know all the adult drama going on in your lives and the lives of those around you.
8. The world does not revolve around your children. It is not all about them. There are other factors at play. Teach them. Train them to interact with a dynamic environment instead of a self-centered view of life.
9. You and your spouse were married before you had the child (usually). Your relationship is more important and takes top priority over your relationship with your children. Husband, model how to treat women to your kids by how you treat your wife. Wives, model how to treat a man by how you treat your husband. Better yet, husbands, treat your wife like you want some guy to treat your daughter…..yea, that’ll make ya think a bit huh?
10. When in doubt of any of these refer back to point one.

Okay, those are my thoughts on the subject. I’m sure many of you might disagree, and that is fine I can deal with it. How is that possible? Because my parents spanked the crap out of me when I deserved it. They taught me that it was not all about me that there are other people in the world. There are other people standing in line behind me and I need to pay attention to my surroundings and respect others. They taught me that my life has extreme value and I should live my life in such a way that it honors God, and if I forgot that at any point in time, they spanked me. No I was not abused. I was loved, encouraged and raised in the fear and admonition of the Lord.

So, who runs your house, you or your kids?

I’m The One With Issues

Have you ever been annoyed by others? Have you ever been in a situation that just stunk? You feel like you have done everything you could or should do, you have been nice, congenial, in fact down right spiritual and the situation doesn’t change, it just stays the same? Sometimes we find ourselves in difficult situations and we just want out, we just want it to get better, and no matter what we do it doesn’t change. Usually in these situations we want the other person to change. I mean after all, we are perfect and acting right, and if they would just change everything would be grand!

Another way to look at it is that it is us not them. It is me not you. I’m learning that I am the one that needs more help. Not more help than you, just more help. We can’t compare, that just screws us up more. I’m learning that I need to have my head screwed on straight. In Romans the Apostle Paul said, “For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.

One of the things I am working on in my own life is keeping my mind set on those things in the spirit not in the flesh. Do I meditate on issues, problems, annoying people, annoying situations, or do I focus and meditate on God, his eternal goodness, his love and grace? I’m not perfect. I find myself constantly struggling in keeping my mind focused on the spirit as apposed to the flesh, but after all, if it was easy everybody would do it. Plus it doesn’t matter how anybody else lives, acts, or treats me, it is how I act and how I treat others. I need to work on me, not you.

So who are you working on today, are you trying to work on me, or are you working on you? Who is annoying you today? Are you trying to fix them, or are you working on you? Today, fix your mind on Christ the author of your faith.